Posted by emilyp on August 19, 2009, at 8:47:55
In reply to Re: nothing since my last post... » Dinah, posted by peddidle on August 14, 2009, at 22:31:11
I don't want to sound harsh or insensitive here, but based on what I have read (and assuming you have not sent it yet), I don't think you should send it. As hard as it is, it seems pretty clear that your therapist is unwilling to continue a relationship. That is unfortunate but sometimes life throws a curve ball. I think if you send her the e-mail and you don't get a response - or even worse, get an e-mail that is curt and not particularly understanding, then you will feel even worse. And you seem to say it the best - "Maybe if she sees how hard I've been trying with this, she'll agree that some of the reasons why she said she wouldn't see me aren't a problem anymore. False hope." Unfortunately it does seem like a false hope. If she was willing to see you, I don't think she would have terminated and told you to see someone else.
I say all this not to be mean, but to encourage you to move on. Find the support you need from someone else - someone who wants to engage in a relationship. It is really hard to 'change' someone - whether it be a boyfriend/girlfriend, a mother or a therapist. Instead of trying to change her and her feelings, you would be better off putting your efforts toward yourself, learning to manage without her and finding a therapist that can help you.
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