Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 17, 2009, at 20:47:24
In reply to anger, posted by poppet on August 17, 2009, at 9:19:52
> Hi, im a newbie so hello -<<
---flutterby: Hi and Welcome.
> I wanted to know if anyone can relate - I have trouble with getting angry at my therapist - i can't tolerate the feelings, they're completely 'split' i think is the right term - when I do get angry or upset -i only feel negative, very bad emotions that feel like the whole world is bad.<<---flutterby: Yea, I feel the world is bad or Im very bad..... when I'm supposed to feel angry.(so I've been told)
>>I think my mother had trouble tolerating them, and thus couldn't give love back, and was not able assimilate both emotions in myself, and in her as an object. As for my therapist, I can't even get that far, in that I can't bring myself to get angry at her. My angry feelings were obviously once, and still are, and can't see a way around that since they won't even show themselves to my therapist who is the person who could help me!
> Anyone relate?
>---flutterby: My mother didn't show love unless she knew she woould get some reward back-- like giving love to a neighbor child or something..... and(as a child) I saw that anger creates severe emotional pain and physical injury and so I have, most of my life, feared anger. It's not a safe emotion-- in my view.
I hope you can get to the point where you can feel OK enough to show your therapist your anger. (wow-- I don't think I could ever be angry at the therapist I see......)
best to you,flutterby-mandy
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