Posted by Daisym on August 14, 2009, at 20:48:31
In reply to I just wish..., posted by 10derHeart on August 14, 2009, at 17:24:17
me too. Exactly. Ditto all of the above.
And it is just soo....distressing at times. I think like wine or chocolate - they are so great and yet we know what we should limit ourselves to but every now and then it gets so BIG - all that yearning.
Funny - last Thursday my therapist mentioned, in an off handed way, "I should tell you I'm going away this weekend but I have my phone and I'm taking my computer so if you need me just reach out." The tears just sprang up - I hate that. I didn't want to think of him far away - I wanted him in his office with a blanket and a hot plate, waiting for my next session. *sigh*
Treat yourself to something nice this weekend. Spend time with someone who makes you smile or fills you up. That really is the best medicine.
And here is some wisdom from my therapist, "missing someone you care about is what happens when two people are truly connected. There is nothing pathological in that at all. I understand that you get worried that the universe will somehow swallow me up. It won't - and if it tries, I'll fight back. I'm touched that you miss me. It means you care. I'll miss you too. But you must remember that distance does not matter - our connection stretches however much we need it to. I can hold you in my mind no matter where I am."
So think of him as holding you in his mind. And go ahead and write him anyway.
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