Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 10, 2009, at 15:11:50
In reply to therapy issues again, posted by deerock on August 10, 2009, at 14:19:16
> hi there,
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> i had a dream last night that i destroyed my therapists office. i called her to tell her about it she said she understands lots is going on and that we can talk about it more when i see her.<<---flutterby: yikes, that does sound upsetting... maybe you can explore why you are so angry, what is it about seeing this therapist that makes you upset?
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> at the same time, a few friends of mine have commented that after 2 years of 3x per week therapy with this woman, i am not any better than i was before it started and in fact that i seem much more aggressive.
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> im not sure. i thought it was working and i thought i was feeling better. and when i had that dream, the amount of rage that came up scared the ever living crap out of me. i woke up and almost went to the ER bec. i thought i was having a heart attack.
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> so i tell my friends this story and they all say "see, this therapist is making you worse." and i tell the therapist and she tells me she understands.
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> i dont know who to trust or what to do. everytime i go for a consult, i get get told that it sounds like my therapist is very good.
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> im baffled here.<<---flutterby: maybe taking a step outside yourself-- looking how the rest of your life is going.... you could ask yourself-- are you coping better with things, like your home, your job(if applicable), your family/relationships and such..... have the reasons you started therapy gone away or gotten better? If you had goals-- have you reached them or find them reachable?
I think therapy is a very individual path and each person goes through the process in their own way.
I can sure understand your confusion-- I go back and forth myself, as to whether therapy is truly helpful for me or not......(It took me over 3 years before this one, to figure I was with the wrong therapist-- now this current one I'm with is much better but I'm still not totally sure of it all......)best to you,
flutterby-mandy
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