Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2009, at 22:56:52
In reply to Re: nothing is going right lately » seldomseen, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 21:24:03
I ask my therapist "Is everything going to be ok?" And we've worked out the particulars so that he will say "Everything is going to be ok." He's got this fabulous way of saying it, so that it fills me with an assurance that it will. If he doesn't say it that way, I ask him to repeat it.
I've asked him to teach me how to say it, but we haven't gotten around to it yet. And I'm not sure I'll be able to learn.
But, Sunnydays, it *will* be ok. Things can be so horrendously overwhelming sometimes that I am paralyzed and helpless in the face of it, which just makes things worse. But you've gotten through those times before, and you will again. People get through the most amazing things really.
Your life will be ok, and more than ok. Life isn't like a final. You can't pass or fail in one go 'round. Even if your worst possible scenario comes true at this point, it won't be the end of the chances of a good life. And realistically, the worst will likely not happen. I have worried about so many things over the years, and for the most part, I've worried in vain.
Is there any way you can distract yourself from your therapist's absence and accomplish something tangible towards what you are concerned about? It doesn't have to be anything large. Is there something small?
poster:Dinah
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