Posted by Ladybelle31 on August 7, 2009, at 9:35:41
In reply to The Other Side of the Relationship, posted by Daisym on August 7, 2009, at 1:25:33
Hi Daisym, thats a very interesting question and I totally can relate. Im sorry youre going through this. I dont have a good answer for you unfortunatelybut wanted to share something that happened to me last week I found myself in similar situation where I was so angry and mad at my therapist tooI had emailed him and was intentionally mean to him and pointed out some personal faults of his and I was wanting some sort of a personal reaction out of him to see if he cared about me. He emailed me back and said he was sorry and that he wasnt mad at mewhich only made me feel worse as these were the assumed correct answers. I actually am jealous (but in a good way of course!) that your therapist was that connected to you.
To make a long story short, we talked and he pointed out that really Im acting childishly now because I was emotionally abandoned by my mother and as a result, now Im responding on outside as a child (being angry/temper tantrums) and inside (wanting to feel special/positive feedback) This made sense to me-but I admit it didnt make me feel better at allI asked him why he couldnt provide me a feel good therapy session and that I felt I needed now a good paid for friend to make me feel better- as isnt that the point of therapy? He said wed talk about this in future sessions.
Thanks for posting your question thoughI think its really hard to find people who actually understand these feelings we have about our therapists. At least you know he cares about you...but at same time, that's just him doing his job everyday correctly
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