Posted by emmanuel98 on July 18, 2009, at 22:14:59
In reply to a therapist's personality means alot, posted by friesandcoke on July 18, 2009, at 21:02:33
Psyhcentral.com had a post a while back on the 10 most annoying habits of therapists and bringing a dog or other pet to the office was one of their top ten. Since I began this journey four years ago, I have seen a number of therapists -- in hospitals, in consultations, or just in my initial search for a p-doc -- whose personality defects were so obvious that I knew I could never benefit from working with them. I saw one p-doc in a hospital who spoke so slowly that I wanted to shake him by the shoulders to hurry him up. Another who was intuitive and compassionate but could be reliably detoured at any moment by asking him about his own research, which he would recite in detail. I saw a social worker at the very beginning who had so little to say that I wouldn't know how to pass the fifty minutes. I googled her and found that she advertised her services on a site for divorce lawyers with the come-on -- are your clients driving you crazy? When I finally saw my current p-doc and T, I knew as soon as I left his office that I wanted to do therapy with him. I still can't say why exactly. I just knew I could trust him and that he could help me. I wanted to unburden myself to him. Studies find that the relationship between T and patient is the most healing part of the therapy. Sometimes people just click and when they do it's great. If my T were to retire, I wouldn't trust his recommendations. When he's left town, I haven't always liked the people he had covering for him. He tends to send me for consultations to people he knows -- friends and colleagues he has respect for, but not people I necessarily click with.
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