Posted by Dinah on July 8, 2009, at 21:32:13
In reply to would this be inappropriate?, posted by catlady on July 8, 2009, at 19:49:06
I tend to ask things sideways, with room for him to not answer if he doesn't wish to. Like with his vacation. I'll probably say something like "I was wondering where you'll be vacationing. Is that one of those questions I'm not supposed to ask?"
Then he'll say that I can ask anything I like, and it's up to him to decide how to answer. Then since he's not a blank slate type therapist he'd likely answer.
I think you can ask anything. She might or might not answer, but the asking isn't shameful. At the least it's an expression of your thinking about her as a person. There's nothing wrong with that.
My therapist would probably be open about answering anything that would generally be disclosed in casual conversation. Marital status is definitely one of those things.
He'd likely want to know why I'm asking though. Or why I'm asking at this moment.
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