Posted by mollieQ on May 13, 2009, at 14:16:37
In reply to I don't want to go tonight, posted by TherapyGirl on May 13, 2009, at 7:48:26
TG,
I have been thinking about you. I've been reading recently about the grieving process, how it is the mind's way of preparing us for acute loss and laying the groundwork for our eventual recovery. And if we don't grieve, we risk a lack of resolution where our grief stays with us indefinitely. That would be an awful thing, even worse than what you are going through now.
In grieving the loss of your T, there needs to be room for all of your feelings - protest, anger, intense sadness, wanting to go away. If you don't feel like going to your session, maybe do as Daisy suggests and take a night off. Grieving doesn't have to be 24/7 and there's nothing wrong with needing to protect ourselves from the feelings sometimes. But hang in there. You will get to the other side, and there will have been a purpose to all of these crazy, painful and contradictory feelings. You may still miss her, but you will be able to move forward with your life. That is a very big accomplishment.
((((((((((TG))))))))))))
Mollie
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