Posted by fleeting flutterby on April 28, 2009, at 11:14:04
In reply to Re: axis two features fleeting, posted by deerock on April 27, 2009, at 15:55:10
> <<<----seems to me you asked a question and were given an honest answer and now you're pissed??..... >>>
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> am i not allowed to ask a question and be pissed at the answer? im not sure i understand why you asked that.<<
---flutterby: What I was trying to get at is, the therapist was put in a NO win situation-- she was condemned(you were pissed) if she didn't give you the diagnosis-- and -- she was again condemned(you were pissed) for giving you her diagnosis.......
wonder if you put people in no-win situations when you're stressed?(not pointing a finger at you negatively-- just trying to figure things out, is all)
> to me, her thinking i have a personality disorder tells me as much about her, as it does about me. i mean this in the sense that many therapists i have seen have never dx'd me with such a thing.<<--flutterby: Maybe she's the only one you've been working with that uses axis II in diagnosis, or maybe she's the only one you've come across with courage to be honest and open with you......
like someone once said here(sorry I can't remember who)... "one can go to 5 different therapists and come out with 5 different diagnoses"-- psychiatry is NOT an exact science..... hmmmmmm.. is it even a science?? *scratches head*...
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> its hopeful to hear you say you dont feel its a dead end to have a personality disorder. good~!<<---flutterby: Of course it's not! :o) It's not easy but it's not a dead end. There are many many thought approaches/processes I've had to re-learn(and still am), as I taught myself and -- being I was a child, and didn't have an adult knowledge-- I have had to unlearn(start from a *blank*)underdeveloped approaches....which is extremely difficult-- and then learn a healthier approach..... like I try not to jump to conclusions as much and I try(this is a very hard one for me!) to not get defensive, when someone disagrees with me.
anyway-- wish you the best :o)
flutterby-mandy
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