Posted by raisinb on April 23, 2009, at 17:01:39
In reply to really confused about my therapist, posted by deerock on April 23, 2009, at 12:13:01
Hi Deerock,
Well, she might be right, or she might be wrong. Maybe your wanting to flee *is* a repetition of a destructive pattern, or maybe it's a healthy drive. But I don't like the fact that she wouldn't take your concerns seriously and discuss them in depth with you. When a client wants to leave, that's what a therapist should do. My therapist and I have spent countless hours talking about the minutiae of my desire to get out of this relationship. She expresses her feelings, but she always respects that it's my decision to make and that she and I can care about each other, but still disagree.
In the end, this is your money, your life, your growth. If your therapist can discuss these feelings with you--nondefensively--and you can get to the root of what's causing them, then that's a good sign, no matter what you choose to do eventually. If she simply keeps dismissing them, though, I think that she is missing a crucial opportunity in your therapy and you might consider leaving on that reason alone.
Try consulting with another therapist, too. I have done that a handful of times and it's always been helpful (and by the way, people were split on the final decision--I had to make that myself). But it was helpful.
poster:raisinb
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