Posted by FindingMyDesire on April 22, 2009, at 11:28:04
In reply to Re: Does posting here take away 'magic' of therapy? » FindingMyDesire, posted by MollieQ on April 21, 2009, at 11:50:32
> The second concern would be mostly for the psychonalytic therapies, in which the relationship lives and breathes within a "cocoon" of mutual privacy. The work of therapy takes place within this cocoon. (Pushing the metaphor, then when the work is all done, the cocoon will open up and out we will spring with our butterfly wings!) In this context I can understand the concern about possibly diluting the transference.
>I love this idea of the cocoon and butterfly! And the words "mutual privacy" really resonated with me.
> However, there are many ways in which Babble supports and enriches our therapy experiences, especially since the stock advice is "talk to your T about it." It provides support when no other support is available. It normalizes our feelings and experiences. How about a raise of hands for those here who felt relieved by how many of us go through intense feelings of love for our T's? It would be counter-productive if those feelings are only processed here but usually this is no secret to the therapy. And in many cases, Babble has helped prep people to raise this and other difficult topics in therapy.
>Yes, I absolutely agree with this! And it helps me articulate it better to her I think.
> There have also been many times, for me, when something someone's said or that I've myself written, makes me suddenly aware of an issue I hadn't known about. For instance, I wrote a somewhat flip response to the "pictures" thread above, something about T's needing their own transition objects. And after I'd written it, I suddenly became aware that I was angry at my own T for issues about something related to self-disclosure. But it didn't stop there because I also realized that I was being triggered by a number of events, bring a rather primal issue to the fore for discussion in our next meeting. I would not have been so observant if I did not have this context and responded to the thread.
>For me I have often used Babble to "test the waters" of an idea. I almost see what it feels like to say something out loud to someone else in the safe, online space that Babble provides. There have definitely been times when I would not have brought something up in therapy if I had not done it here first.
> FMD, thanks for bringing this topic up. Lots of useful food for thought.
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> MollieI tend to come here on and off so I don't think we have "met" before. Anyway, thanks so much for your thoughtful post.
Cheers,
FMD
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