Posted by Dinah on April 16, 2009, at 12:32:30
In reply to I think Dr. Bob is avoiding me :-(, posted by Deneb on April 16, 2009, at 11:54:25
He's only posting to one thread. And only to some aspects of one thread. I doubt he's reading the rest of admin.
Deneb, you just recently posted that you thought you were getting over your Bob-love. Was that scary to you? Whenever I feel like I might not need my therapist anymore, and forever therapy might not be what I want, I often feel a reflexive wave of attachment at the idea of "losing" him. And it is a loss. A major one. It doesn't matter that my "dependence" on my therapist and his importance to me has always been largely a product of my own wants and needs and projections onto him. It is still real to me, and still an important feature on my inner landscape.
It's ok to get scared as you feel less attached. It's scary to not be attached. It feels much much better to feel attachment for people who are important to us, even if they aren't entirely "real" to others. At least not as they are inside. It's lonely to let that go.
But it's likely a good idea to keep one eye on what you are doing, and why. Metacognition is it?
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