Posted by seldomseen on April 3, 2009, at 17:41:01
In reply to Re: I'm tenured! » seldomseen, posted by raisinb on April 3, 2009, at 11:01:41
It's odd because I've had pretty much the opposite experience with humans and the things they care about. I find that invariably they will let me down, forget things that are important to me, and sometimes even take me absolutely for granted.
I think the key is how I'm learning to handle the inevitable let down that is associated in dealing with other human beings and not interpret a lack of thoughtfulness with a lack of caring until the evidence is just overwhelming.
But even that is hard for me sometimes to separate out what is an irreparable hurt and one that is not. I have a tendency to leap to irreparable so quickly.
I've reached a very pleasant place with my therapist in that regard. I accumulated enough trust and confidence that I can deal with his occasional thoughtlessness, or at least recover from it fairly quickly.
It's the rest of the world I'm learning to deal with.
Seldom.
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