Posted by Nadezda on March 18, 2009, at 14:22:02
In reply to Re: So Monday, I asked my p-doc...., posted by SLS on March 18, 2009, at 6:34:37
It's an awfully complicated and loaded question. I imagine as Scott says that Ts have patients that they enjoy working with more-- and that they have more difficulties with. And it may vary from time to time-
But it really isn't the point, which can be hard to understand, and feel-- but it really isn't. You can be your T's favorite and not make progress. Or vice versa. Or any combination. The question is what do you need, where you do you need to grow, and to change to make your life fuller and more meaningful. Being a Ts favorite patient doesn't accomplish that at all. it may feel good-- or it may not feel so good-- but it doesn't help you make progress in your life.
I often have worried about that-- but actually, you really can't compare how someone feels about you/or how much they care with how they feel/care about other people. Caring isn't divisible that way-- so long as your T is able to care about you in the way that helps and feels right-- it's not going to be less if they care about other people a lot-- it's just what it is. It won't be the same for you as it is for me-- I guess it's mostly are you getting enough of what you need. If you are, then maybe it doesnt' matter what anyone else is getting.
It can be reassuring, or good for one's ego-- which of course we all like-- but it's secondary, so very secondary.
Nadezda
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