Posted by FindingMyDesire on March 13, 2009, at 2:58:03
In reply to Article about annoying habits of therapists, posted by DAisym on March 11, 2009, at 19:55:00
This was a fun article. Very validating. I have experienced a few of these with previous therapists, but not so much with my current.
I worry that she is tired, but when I ask she mostly says she is not. A few times she was and told me so which makes me trust her all the more. Sometimes her eyes do look tired, but I'm starting to think that's something else. Maybe she is listening and thinking at the same time in that moment. She seems to un-focus from me partly. However, she always follows my every word. So, I don't know.
She totally dresses appropriately. Perfectly down whatever middle they are describing here. Of course I have the burden of a very active fantasy world and have to admit that I often imagine what she would look like in other kinds of clothes. But thank god that doesn't actually happen in there. I'd freak out. She is just way, way too beautiful.
I wear whatever I wear to work that day. Sounds easy. But that morning I must spend 1/2 hour picking out my clothes and stressing about it. I feel so ridiculous. I'm not a clothes person. This is usually a 2 minute exercise based on my gut feeling for the day. For therapy... I want to be comfortable, but look good. I want to feel confident but not take up too much space. I don't want to wear what I wore the last two times I saw her. I don't want to show off too much of my body (like she even cares...) Fact is, she probably doesn't even notice what I'm wearing. But I sure worry about it a lot. Sometimes I'm even running late in the morning and get totally stuck changing in and out of clothes. This is the point my partner starts to get annoyed... understandably. She knows what's up and usually says something like, "Why don't you care what you wear around me that much?" I don't know. The nine year marriage? The fact that my therapist occupies a HUGE amount of space in my head - mostly having to do with the part of me that controls my own sense of self-worth? Can't really say either one of those two things... haha
Guess that article got me going!
:-)FMD
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