Posted by Kath on February 25, 2009, at 11:46:47
In reply to Re: and this other recurring dream..(violence trigger), posted by obsidian on February 24, 2009, at 19:04:50
>I think I'll end up drawing it. I need to get the picture out of my head.
((sid))
Dear Obsidian,
I think drawing it is an excellent idea. I have 2 thoughts that came into my mind.
1) Don't know if you've ever done "Inner Child" writing or drawing. It's drawing with your non-dominant hand. I'm right-handed, so I'll use my left hand. I have a big container of coloured markers that I 'let' my 'little girl' draw with. She also prints (& spells rong! lol). She is quite 'there' when I give her a chance in this way. I was thinking of how extremely powerful it might be for your little kid to draw whatEVER she wants (she might even want to draw things that she wishes would have happened to people who were bad to her, or who were bad to others she loved, etc).
2) In the past when I've written things that I want to get out of my system & NOT be part of me any more, I've done various ways of getting RID of the paper with the writing on it. One time, when at a lake, I got a dead branch & poked the papers (I had 2) onto a twigs. Then I propped the stick upright in the water & lit the papers one by one, let them burn & the ash fall into the water & float away. It felt wonderful! Another time I was at home & just went out the back, ripped the paper up & put it into small garbage can & lit it; let it burn; threw the ashes into my large garbage pail.
I think drawing it to get it out of your head is a great idea.
love, Kath
PS - sometimes if I'm really upset about something & it feels like I'm more upset than the situation actually warrants, I'll sit down with a special book I have for Inner Child stuff. Almost always, I feel massively better afterwards.
I'll write (adult me writing with my right hand), "How are you feeling, little girl?"
Change hands, she might write, "I'm upset. You're mean! You said 'No' to ___"
Change hands, I write, "Are you angry?"
Change hands, 'She' writes, "No. I'm scared. What if he gets upset & does something that isn't good for him"
Change hands, I write, "I hear that you're scared. I'm sorry you're scared. It's okay though, _____ will have people say 'No' to him in his life. He has to get used to it. He'll be okay."
Change hands, She writes, "Are you sure its okay? Its not okay to say 'No' to people."
Change hands, I write, "Yes honey, it's okay We can say No if we want to! Want to draw a picture?"
Change hands, She writes, "Yeah. I wanna drawr flowrs." So then she 'drawrs flowrs'.
I have a whole book of this stuff. It's been a wonderful healing tool for me. I seem to be able to flip back into 'nurturing adult' role no matter what 'she' comes up with!
Hugs sid, Kath
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