Posted by sharon7 on February 13, 2009, at 17:08:35
In reply to Terminated and devastated :(, posted by brooksie1 on February 13, 2009, at 16:20:10
Hi brooksie,
Well, first let me say how sorry I am for your pain. Secondly, welcome to 'babble.' I'm glad you decided to post. There's some great people on here with a lot of insight and wisdom. I know, because I've only been on here a few weeks and have been helped tremendously.
Of course without knowing what happened, it's hard for me to say how justified (if at all) your remorse is. (I'm not asking you to say; I assume if you wanted to share that part of it,it'd have been included in your post.) But regardless of what it is, you are clearly in a great deal of pain, and I honestly don't know what to say to make you feel better. Only that I am very sorry you are hurting. I am SO glad you have an appt next week to talk to a new therapist. I hope you like him/her and will feel comfortable enough to at least start talking about this. Sounds like you really need to unburden yourself.
What I can say is, you are most definitely deserving of happiness. We all make mistakes, do/say things we wish we hadn't, some HUGE, some not so big.
And yes, you CAN forgive yourself. I don't care what it is. I have a feeling you are being very, very hard on yourself.
Whatever happened that you feel was a mistake, learn from it. Figure out why it happened. Have some compassion for yourself. Please don't beat yourself up anymore. Try to pull yourself together as best you can until your appt next week.
I wish I knew what to say, Brooksie. I wish I had a magic wand to make it all better. If it helps at all, know I care, and I will say a prayer for you. Please stop beating yourself up. It's not going to make the situation any better. It's just going to drag you down. You gotta get back up and move forward. We've all done things we regret. I've done some TERRIBLE things, let me tell you. We can't go back and undo the past. Believe me, there's lots of times I wish we could! I'd change a lot of things. But honestly, all the energy that we put into dwelling on past mistakes (which is another thing, this just happened Monday, so it's still very fresh) does not help us or the situation one bit. It just makes us miserable.
Keep us posted. I really want to know how you are doing. (o:
Sharon
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