Posted by workinprogress on February 13, 2009, at 0:32:05
In reply to So, this is entirely novel., posted by seldomseen on February 12, 2009, at 18:26:14
seldom-
I so agree with tender! Not only is it probably the good thing, but what an opportunity to share with him how much it meant to you. If you can tell him you think his doing that was the really good thing, well, it might just reinforce to him how meaningful that was/is to you. And, maybe he'll reach out and show you he cares a little bit more. I think we all here can share the thought that sometimes our Ts just don't get how BIG those little things are.
I'm glad you had something to brighten your day. And I glad you let it soak in and really impact you- that's not easy either. You allowed yourself to let that feeling in, to recognize your want of that. Good for you.
Relish it. And keep us posted if you do talk to him.
(((((((seldom))))))
WIP
> So, I've been having a long series of terrible, horrible no go very bad days (seriously, I asked myself if it just my attitude or are they really that bad - I'm came to the conclusion it was not my attitude.). I also think I'm getting an ear infection and my car has bird poop all over it.
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> Yesterday my session with my T also did not go so well. He was grumpy, I was grumpy. It was not one of those magical sessions, but one of those that you kind of wish you didn't have to pay for.
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> I finally just ended up saying "I just want for something GOOD to happen. Like a grant being funded, or the place I volunteer getting a new tiger, or me getting a coupon in the mail for a free carpet cleaning." Something positive, renewing. He had little to say.
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> Well anyway, I forgot to pay him and dropped by this morning with a check and left it at his office door. I was like, "okey dokey off to work to face the fresh hell".
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> On the way home, I was considering reducing the number of sessions with him. Lately, I just hadn't been getting the benefit from therapy that I had in the past.
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> When I got home, there was a message on my machine from him. He indicated that he got the payment and so hoped that something good did happen for me today. He said that he was sending me a blessing for good things to come until he saw me again next week.
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> I was so floored and so touched. He had never done anything like that before. Ever. He had never even called my house without me calling first before for anything, except to cancel a session now and again.
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> But there it was, his voice filling my living room with a blessing.
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> It's amazing that even after 8 years, he can still surprise me. Maybe this is the good thing I was hoping for...
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> Seldom.
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