Posted by fleeting flutterby on February 12, 2009, at 16:05:41
You've been going to see this psychologist, pretty regularly, twice a month for almost 3 years. Seems the progress is quite slow but it's there in some situations. He says things like- "You are one tough cookie" and "Gee, your mother sure did a number on you".
and then one day.... as you still struggle to create an "attachment"(as attachments feel so foreign and frightening, since you never developed one as an infant)...... your T. says "Well, I've taught you all I know".
would you interpret that as T. saying-- "I can't help you anymore, we are done". and so then you jsut don't go anymore??............
that's what happened..... I just quit going..... that's the ONLY view I saw-- that I must quit as we are done. But to my surprise..... after emailing T. that I wasn't his client anymore, that I'd not be at sessions anymore-- he had no idea what brought me to this decision. I never did explain to him about his comment that he's taught me all he knows...... I was too fearful to say that reason.......(I feared he'd get mad at me-- or even worse-- feel bad about himself for saying that)
what if your T. said that to you-- "I've taught you all I know"-- would you feel that was a secret way of him/her telling you that it's time for you to terminate?
flutterby-mandy
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