Posted by LadyBug on January 30, 2009, at 9:28:28
In reply to Do you ever think you should 'Get Over It?'......, posted by Looney Tunes on January 29, 2009, at 22:15:11
For me, I learned about myself, what my issues were and as time passed in therapy I learned how to recognize my thought process when something would come up that had to do with my childhood injuries. My T told me one time that the things I struggled with would pop up at any given time all throughout my life. When I started therapy I didn't know how to react to my issues so I fell apart. I mean totally fell apart to where I shut down and all I knew how to do was cry and worry. After time, things started to become more clear to me and when something came up that I struggled with I had the capacity to react differently.
Does this mean after 12 years of therapy I "got over it"? NO, I will always struggle with the same issues, but now I am much better at pulling myself to the other side of it. I get through it much better. Actually the past few years my T would tell me how much I had grown since I started working with her, there was no comparison in the person I was and the person I became! I'm still working on it everyday and I always will.
I don't think you can just "get over it". Unless you are in denial. It will remain inside until you choose to deal with it. My issue will rear it's ugly head from time to time. You can learn how to deal with things in a better way. At least I'm speaking for myself. I found when I wanted to give up, I knew I could go back to my old ways but I was determined to keep at it until I felt like I was doing better.
I had a lot of issues to deal with. I'm not perfect now nor am I all better, but I'm ok and that is good enough. Being ok is good enough.
Don't ever give up. Have hope in all things.
LadyBug
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