Posted by Dinah on January 19, 2009, at 23:34:12
In reply to Do you tell your t how you feel about him or her?, posted by movingforward on January 19, 2009, at 18:57:31
It was very hard for me at first. Well, I wouldn't even admit it to myself at first. Then like 10der, I danced around the word. And finally I got tired and started saying "love" but with what sounded like the small print disclaimers at the end of a prescription medication commercial. Because my love is not at all romantic or sexual. More of a child to mother sort of love.
Now I just say it warmly and comfortably, and he takes it in kind.
Some therapists discuss it, others accept it. And I suppose a few take it badly. I *know* I tested the waters plenty before I actually took the plunge. I often do that. Ask him what his thoughts are on various topics. I probably didn't need to do that, but I'm relatively cautious.
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