Posted by frida on January 18, 2009, at 12:55:36
In reply to FMS, posted by antigua3 on January 17, 2009, at 15:22:36
Dear antigua,
everything surrounding FMS also upsets me greatly. Mainly because I think that the number of people suffering in silence and finding yet one more reason not to tell or not to work through this, is so great...
I think that we who were abused when we were so little, have trouble believing in ourselves and that we're worth something, and that we're worth telling and being heard and believed...it took me years and years in T to be able to talk about the abuse and I haven't been able to share with my feelings...
The damage that abuse does to a person is just so huge..
I understand the claims that some people make but I think that we should concentrate our efforts in helping those people who feel ashamed and suffer in silence..so they don't suffer alone for years even after the abuse has ended.In the past whenever I read about FMS I used to feel so scared that I would be left to suffer alone, and other people too. It's already hard for me to admit to myself what has happened.
My T tells me that it's one of the hardest issues in our T. I just can't admit to myself the things that have happened. Sometimes it's easier to trick myself and tell myself that it wasn't that bad or that maybe I can pretend it never happened. But it did, and the consequences of it are all over the place.
I think the same happens to a lot of people, and I hate to think that reading about FMS may cause them to doubt themselves even more than we already do, and may cause them to choose not to tell and to hide this secret deep inside their minds...in a way that destroys them little by little. :-(It does happen that we block stuff from our minds and it takes time for them to come back to us, if they do. As you, there were things that happened that I didn't even remember and suddenly they came to me and at first i didn't even believe they were wrong...until my adult self could see it.
memories came to me slowly, and sometimes it's like i have pieces of a puzzle...but the rest is all in my body and heart. My truth is there.Thank you for sharing this.
I wanted to let you know I understand .
Love and safety,
Frida
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