Posted by Wittgensteinz on December 30, 2008, at 15:58:00
In reply to therapist no showed, posted by deerock on December 30, 2008, at 8:56:58
Hi Deerock,
I think the fact you have an early appointment is neither here nor there. I'm not sure whether you see an analyst, but from what I've heard, it is not uncommon for analysts to have early sessions.
I find it weird that your T offers such weak excuses as "I overslept". That's what teachers expect of late schoolchildren - and even then it's not tolerated. I also find it strange that she tells you she will buy a new alarm clock and remember to have your cell phone number at home - that doesn't make up for the fact you have already twice arrived to find her not there. Did she have a secretary to inform you she wasn't there? Did she attempt to apologise properly for her absence rather than just fobbing you off with excuses.
I'm sorry I'm reacting so strongly but as someone who also has big trust issues, I would find this experience very difficult not to take personally - this kind of thing doesn't help build confidence or trust - in fact it goes a long way to destroying these things. I personally think you deserve better than that and would hope she comes up with something better than "I overslept".
That said, I can see why it's hard - you've had 9 good months with this therapist, seeing her regularly - I would try and let her know how this has made you feel, what you expect of her and how you feel about the way she handled her absences. I've never experienced anything like this - my therapist has never been late, let along 'absent', and I know I wouldn't know what to do if I got there and he wasn't there.
Witti
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