Posted by fleeting flutterby on December 16, 2008, at 13:21:50
In reply to Anyone Good Definition Or Description Of Borderlin, posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2008, at 13:01:28
> Having trouble understanding fully what borderline behavior is anyone willing to explain? Would really appreciate it. Thanks Phillipa<<
Well to give you a live example-- I can tell you about my mom.
She wants people to be close to her but the minute you don't do as she thinks you should do-- then she flames you and tries to push you away. She is VERY uncomfortable alone-- it's like she can't stand her own company. She is an impulsive spender-- to the point of financial ruin. She also shoplifts which is why I don't go "shopping" with her. It seems to me she struggles to deal with emotions and yet lives to create drama. She will say how she really hates someone and then the next day she's going out to lunch with them.... huh?..... It truly confuses me and has since I was a wee little one. she recently moved over 1000 miles away, has lived there for 5 months and now hates it there just like she did here-- but wants to move back here now!! argh.... it's so confusing!
so--- this is how she is as living with borderline-- please keep in mind though that each person is an individual and has varying traits.
here's a clip from the Mayo Clinic:
Symptoms
Borderline personality disorder affects how you feel about yourself, how you relate to others and how you behave.When you have BPD, you often have an insecure sense of who you are. That is, your self-image or sense of self often rapidly changes. You may view yourself as evil or bad, and sometimes may feel as if you don't exist at all. An unstable self-image often leads to frequent changes in jobs, friendships, goals, values and gender identity.
Your relationships are usually in turmoil. You often experience a love-hate relationship with others. You may idealize someone one moment and then abruptly and dramatically shift to fury and hate over perceived slights or even minor misunderstandings. This is because people with the disorder have difficulty accepting gray areas things are either black or white. For instance, in the eyes of a person with BPD, someone is either good or evil. And that same person may seem good one day and evil the next.
Other signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder may include:
Impulsive and risky behavior, such as risky driving, unsafe sex, gambling sprees or taking illicit drugs
Strong emotions that wax and wane frequently
Intense but short episodes of anxiety or depression
Inappropriate anger, sometimes escalating into physical confrontations
Difficulty controlling emotions or impulses
Suicidal behavior
Fear of being alone
--- hope this helped some
flutterby-mandy
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