Posted by frida on December 5, 2008, at 6:40:18
Hi,
After reading recent posts, I wanted to share something about my latest experience with my T...
I feel really grateful to have her, and to know she's so committed to our relationship, but I wanted to share in case it might help others think of other ways to stay connected with their therapists...I've been in long-term T for 9 years or so now. It took me a long time to build trust and start making progress...I have told my T about my abuse but just in disconnected fragments (from an emotional distance, except for some times), she knows everything that happened, but what I haven't been able to achieve is to tell with all my emotions. Now we've decided to put that on hold a little if i can...
Anyway, I'm 5 months pregnant now, she goes on holidays from the end of dec. until february (I'll see her then) and then I won't see her until after the baby is born but I am not sure exactly when.
Yesterday we discussed what we can do..because she knows she's the person I trust, and can tell her my real feelings, and she knows I do need her, and sometimes it just helps me to know she's near. She knows all this...
She says she's willing to try whatever could help, because she doesn't want me to suffer because of her absence, and she wants me to feel her close, and she wants to be near during this important stage in my life, and she wants to help me take care of the baby. She said she's doing this for me and the baby too. She's really happy that I'm pregnant and wants me to have the best experience.Well yesterday she gave me her new cell phone number, she said we can exchange txt messages, I can call her, even if I want to hear her voice, I can also email her and she will receive and respond to my emails...she said that if i'm feeling sad or hurting and I need to hear her voice, to call her to her cell phone , that it won't bother her at all (I told her what if it bothers you, you'll be on holidays, etc, etc...). She said she wanted me to accept this, that she offers it from her heart and it's ok for her. We agreed that I'll email her or send her txt messages and call her to hear her voice.
When we talked about how we're going to continue after the baby is born and I'm unable to travel and see her (it's a 1 hour and a half trip more or less), apart from phone/mail, etc, she suggested we could do something like videoconference, she said we could try it out and see how I feel..that i could see her, we can set a time and have a session like that. It put my heart at ease, knowing she'll be near somehow and she's so willing to try different ways to stay connected with me. She even said that if i need her and can't move out of bed for some reason , she'd come here.
She made me feel she's really with me. She genuinely cares and also cares about my baby.
I feel really grateful :-)
I wanted to share this,
Frida
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