Posted by JayMac on November 26, 2008, at 0:08:18
In reply to Re: Does Your Therapist Have a Website? » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on November 25, 2008, at 17:12:13
I completely agree with you Dinah.
I may get some recourse from this, but I firmly believe it is unnecessary to share my T's information with anyone. This is to protect HER privacy and MY privacy. She has a very unique name. Regardless of whether or not she has a website, I do not want other people to know her private information available. She advertises on the internet, her address is listed, and if you search hard enough you can find her family members' names. I do not find it appropriate nor HELPFUL for anyone to know this information.She and I have spoken numerous times about how I've googled her many times over. Something to consider: She said that there's a difference between finding out information on the internet and having a conversation with someone and having them reveal something about themselves. To converse is to reveal and to connect. She told me that she would never google me because she wants to hear about me FROM ME. Nevertheless, I COMPLETELY understand the desire to google our Ts. I understand this all to well.
I find it fun to casually talk about my T, but I specifically do NOT mention details where someone would know it were her. I think it is inappropriate to speak of such personal information as if it yours to freely share. I believe, and engage, in freely speak of her and our relationship. I can talk about who she is in relation to me, but I would never jeopardize our relationship by revealing intimate details.
I find it fascinating how our Ts all differ. In the previous thread about our T's characteristics, etc., I found it interesting to read about other Ts, but I wrote about her in such a way that defines who she is TO ME. I portray who she is relative to me. To show someone her website or her advertisement or her writings, would create a certain dynamic (between me and you all, and between me and my T) that I deem hazardous. In a way, I would feel unloyal to her.
This is all IMO. I am purposely protective of her, of me, and our relationship. How I see her is not how the casual observer sees and most definitely how anyone else sees her. If I were her, I wouldn't want my patients casually throwing around my name and encouraging other people to find my website/information/books/etc. on the internet.
You may or may not feel the same, but I find it necessary to give my opinion.
JayMac
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