Posted by seldomseen on November 23, 2008, at 12:30:24
In reply to Re: Humans must exist along a continuum of attachment » seldomseen, posted by Dinah on November 23, 2008, at 8:33:41
"I'm a bit perplexed as to why this would make you wish to give up therapy though? You clearly have attached to your therapist. Has that attachment been beneficial?"
I don't know, Dinah if it has been beneficial or not. Forming that attachment (or the perceived one) has certainly been difficult, and the source of much consternation on my part. What I don't know is if it has been difficult because of my past, or the difficulty arises out of who I am. If it is a function of my past, then I adamantly think I should stay in therapy and continue working. However, if it is just who I am, and I am comfortable that, then why continue to force the issue and work toward making a square peg fit into a round hole?
"Absolutely there is no requirement or even desirability of going to therapy longer than is beneficial to you. If it doesn't help your functioning, if you think you have gotten all you can from it, etc., then it is time to quit. I think it's a good thing to evaluate this from time to time. Maybe you and your therapist could discuss it?"
I do plan to discuss this with him. The last time we met, I did bring up the notion that my issues might be physiology based. He was rather dismissive of that theory.
"If I may be a bit bold? I notice that the tone of this post is very detached and clinical, and sounds different from what I am accustomed to hearing from you. Not that you don't regularly impress me greatly with your common sense. But the tone is usually different.
I have noticed in myself (and with great amusement) that I have two ways of getting absolutely furious. The first is by best illustrated by my losing my words altogether. But when I'm angry in the second way, my words get longer and longer, and my writing style more... brilliant (not in the sense of wonderful, but in the sense of a diamond - sharp edged and glittering).
Is it at all possible that your absolute calm and logical sequence of thoughts in this posts is as indicative of anger as it would have been if you had screamed?"
Perhaps. I am clearly not happy with my current course in therapy. Sometimes it is hard to escape being a scientist. To be honest, I am as comfortable in the world of reason and logic as I am in the supernatural and emotive. I've also been working on a manuscript today, so there is some inevitable spill over in verbiage.
"I'm not saying it is. I know not everyone is like me. Heck, I always figure I'm the only one so weird as I am. But I thought I'd offer it anyway."I don't think you are weird at all. None of us are.
Seldom.
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