Posted by rskontos on November 12, 2008, at 9:52:32
In reply to Re: when you feel kicked in the stomach... » CareBear04, posted by lucie lu on November 11, 2008, at 10:56:21
Carebear,
I think this is what happens when we don't say what we mean or ask for clarification. In reading your about your situation with this p-doc I think you and he connected but did not verbalize it enough. I understand because you were probably afraid he might say "no, I just offered because I was worried". Well, I think if he was worried that is caring.
I think most of us here want caring to be caring on the side of really really caring and we need our therapists or p-docs to demonstrate that. But unfortunately their professional ethics and personalities usually forbad that behavior and we are left with the feeling of huh? Did I misinterpret you! When you didn't you just need more communication. They think sometimes actions speak all they need to say when we need both. And we need alot of both. We need in volumes that say I CARE! Both in actions and words. I understand so much what you mean. My therapist is my p-doc and sometimes I know he cares but sometimes it is the way he shows it, I think WTF. He leaves me feeling well if that is all you can show do I really need you? But in the end I know he has my well-being at heart.
Just like this one did. He thought giving you his card and his few brief words was enough of a connection. He did not realize you needed a large billboard hung over a highway. Well not really but that would be ok right. No. What I mean is we all need high levels of assurance. Sometimes they just don't get that right. Sometimes they do.
I agree that maybe you could just print your initial thread/post and let him read it. Maybe then he would understand and rethink what he thinks.
take care sweetie,
rsk
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