Posted by rskontos on November 7, 2008, at 17:37:10
In reply to Re: Elevator rides, etc., posted by DAisym on November 6, 2008, at 23:15:14
So if my t/p-doc talk about things like the election, how I stand, how he stands, what I think about certain programs pertaining to the election, movies ones he recommends, ones I recommend, site I like and ones he wants the links to so he can go to them etc does that mean a friendship of sorts exits. It was a comment or statement that you made Suedehead that made me wonder. I never thought of it that way, I have always thought of it as small talk. Babbling is what I often think of it. I know how my T/p-doc feels on the election, I know who he voted for, he knows who I voted for. He told me of a somewhat embarrassing thing that happened when he went to vote, something he hoped no one else he knew saw. He told me as I was leaving. I know he considers his wife his soul mate. I said I did not think I believed in the concept when my soon to be ex BIL said my sister is his soulmate and he can't live with her, my BIL is very abusive, and I casually ask my T is he believed in it. I rarely ask personal stuff and it is comes out when I do. I really think about personal stuff though. Does that make me weird or shallow? I had not even thought about this topic until you brought it up. So this is probably good to think about it.
I do know if I ran into my T outside the office it would alarm me and I would be at a loss of what to do. Hopefully I never have to confront this. It could happen his office isn't far from my house but I think he lives in the city I live in a suburb. Hopefully I never run into him. When my sessions were earlier in the day I worried he would be coming in the same time I was. I take the stairs though never the elevator, I am pretty sure he takes the elevator. I do it for the exercise. But it is only one floor. Two flights. you know one with the landings in between. Mine would probably greet me and be cordial. I would probably mess it up.
Do many people want to be friends with their therapist? Is it a good thing? I am still struggling to trust so I am not sure what I want yet.
I do trust him mostly. But more I am not so sure bout that.
I am mixed up to say the least.
rsk
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