Posted by lemonaide on October 16, 2008, at 14:09:36
In reply to Re: Something Important to Remember About Our Feel, posted by healing928 on October 16, 2008, at 13:40:06
Okay, this is a good theory, but it isn't all entirely true. Some of didn't have the power as a child to make choice and some of us have suffered horrendous abuse from our parents or others, are you saying when I was a child I had a choice about it? Or that I didn't suffer?
You know my first T was also PhD, professor and supervisor and it didn't stop him from abusing his power over me and sexualized the relationship. Degree's don't mean sh*t, there are as many abusive people who are educated as uneducated. A degree doesn't define the ethics of a person.
Pain shouldn't be accepted as a part of life, especially when it was abusive at the hands of another. When a parent abuses their children, it changes them not only emotionally but physically. Some of us suffer from flashback from pier abuse, just like a vet can suffer flashbacks from war.
You can eventually choose not have these things take over your life, with much therapy to repair the damage. It isn't as simple as saying well I am not going to suffer. Survivor need to speak out, they have been silenced too long, while the abuse still continues. Speaking out can be part of the healing it takes to get over it. Telling someone they are choosing to feel like a victim is very insensitive to them. I am sure most true victims would give up their right hand to not feel the pain.
> My therapist has had his phd for many years, and is a full professor and supervises the training of other t, and he has taught me that we all have the power to make certain choices and feelings are a part of life.
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> I am sorry if you feel i am insensitive, but pain is a part of life, suffering is optional.
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