Posted by antigua3 on October 1, 2008, at 15:38:14
In reply to I had an Aha! moment yesterday, posted by Partlycloudy on October 1, 2008, at 7:55:13
I haven't read all the responses yet, but I was so surprised by your post, because this is what we talked about in therapy this morning. How I had one teacher in H.S. who really took me under her wing and supported me, and helped me get into college when nobody at home was even interested. My mother wasn't in the picture at all, and I had a step-mother at the time who favored her own kids hugely and left me out.
But I remembered that teacher today and what she did for me--taking me to restaurants and opening up the world to me, and inviting me into her own home. She, too, once tried to meet my father and step-mother, but I raced to her car and wouldn't let her come in. I'm sure my father was drinking and I didn't want her to see that. She was just a wonderful, nurturing mother-type figure and I had kind of forgotten how much she had given me.
She died when I was out in graduate school and I never had a chance to thank her. Today I really wished that I still had that opportunity. During a truly terrible time of my life she was there. I didn't share my home story too much as I recall, the focus was more on opening up my world to see that a whole place was out there and I wasn't going to be stuck in the hateful place I was forever.
So thank you for bringing this up. Especially today.
antigua
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