Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 1, 2008, at 15:10:00
In reply to I know this is mean, and maybe I am really a bitch, posted by lemonaide on September 29, 2008, at 23:11:55
Lemonaide,
If I'm honest, I don't really understand what happened between you and your old T. Is he actually guilty of misconduct (i.e. did he behave illegally) or is it more a matter of subtle inappropriate suggestiveness on his part and untherapeutic behaviour? Boundary crossings or boundary violations. I'm assuming he never physically 'acted out'. If he did however, I really think the best thing you could do for yourself and for his other patients is to approach the licensing board and disclose what he did, so that it can be investigated. You may feel it's not worth your while, that he'll have all the answers, but I think you will be taken seriously as these are seriously allegations and sadly not so uncommon. At the very least it will lead him to think much more carefully before repeating such patterns with other patients.
On the other hand, if it is more a matter of fine interpretation, i.e. perceived sexualisation of the relationship, then although this may be inappropriate on his part, is it healthy and helpful to spread hate in this way on-line (of course what you post on your blog is up to you). What I mean to say is: is it helping you move on from this experience or rather is it keeping the whole thing alive?
Is this man dangerous for his patients? Did he behave in such a way that would have him stripped of his license or that would equate to criminal activity? If I were a current patient of his and I was having a good experience with him, I'm not sure it would be a good thing for me to be confronted by the anger of another patient. I can just imagine the impact it would have on me if I ended up reading something like that about my therapist - it would totally blow my trust and would likely put me into a crisis.
Now bearing in mind anyone can in theory write what they want about their therapist on-line, it is a risky business. I think most therapists will at some point have done things wrong, have had a falling out with a patient, have gone about the relationship in the wrong way - if they all then go on to publicly denigrate the therapist on-line, it could become very difficult deciding which cases were genuine misconduct and which were just of a patient with an axe to grind. I'm not saying you are the latter, just that going about it officially through a licensing board would make more sense perhaps than posting ambiguous poems on-line with his name at the top, and then posting a link on a forum for people in therapy.
Please don't be mad at me, it's just my opinion.
Witti
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