Posted by antigua3 on September 22, 2008, at 10:49:23
In reply to Re: You and Dinah are right » antigua3, posted by DAisym on September 19, 2008, at 20:39:42
You're probably right about the longing. I know thoughts of my father come into my head, missing him terribly (it's his b.d. this week)and then the feelings move onto my pdoc.
At my last appt, that's what I wanted--to be comforted and consoled, and no, that's not what he did. He pushed me toward action, which is good because I'm cognizant of this "paralysis by analysis" and he did help me to recognize it and to keep going. But he didn't offer any comfort. "There's a time for feelings and there's a time for action," he said, and this was a time for action.
As hard as that was to take, for me it was probably right, but the next appt is going to be about feelings. If he ignored them, then we will start another ride on our merry-go-round.
Just being aware of my paralysis as a trait and an immediate behavior when faced with this kind of thing has helped me. But it hasn't helped the feelings at all, and I really hurt. The weekend was bad, and today is bad. I see him tomorrow.
Thanks for the kind words about the job. I'm going to try, at least, but I don't have any idea where it's going to lead. I have a roadmap of sorts, but whether or not I can implement it is a whole other thing. But I don't want to talk about that tomorrow w/my pdoc; I feel like that's a waste of my unearned money!
take care Daisy,
antigua
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