Posted by Daisym on September 16, 2008, at 10:26:46
In reply to Inner child stuff, posted by Tabitha on September 16, 2008, at 2:51:44
Tabitha,
I want to recommend two books. "Recovery of Your Inner Child" by Lucia Capacchione and "The Creative Journal for Parents"
Both of these books help you think about yourself both as a parent (even to yourself) and as a child. There are exercises for writing and drawing and playing. I think the drawing exercises are great - I write all the time so drawing was a real discovery for me.
I tell this to many, many parents - just because there is someone in front of you to comfort, doesn't mean you naturally know how to do it. If you weren't shown and mothered this way, it is often hard to figure out what to say or how to provide warmth and security. And if we think we don't really deserve it, if we believe we shouldn't need it (still) - then to give it to ourselves feels indulgent, weak or pathetic. But it isn't. Learning to comfort ourselves, with lots of different tools, including other people, is really important.
I'm glad you are working on this.
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