Posted by lucie lu on September 8, 2008, at 13:49:22
In reply to Feeling okay, feeling like I don't need T WTF?, posted by lemonaide on September 8, 2008, at 11:17:54
Wow, Lemonaide, I am feeling the same way right now. I was feeling pretty good most of the time my T was away, but then crumbled when I saw him again when the old feelings about him started coming back. We did have a good session last week talking about some of these feelings, and I discovered that it does indeed feel nice to air them and have someone simply accept and validate them.
Buton the other handI have been wondering whether I am ever going to really be over the longings and feelings of loss and abandonment, so is it really worth it to keep re-experiencing them with him? Particularly with him as the immediate cause? At what point do these emotional responses become iatrogenic? Or, like you, are we getting ready now to go on to something really productive? I am so confused.
Is this zebra a black horse with white stripes or a white horse with black stripes? I have no idea but see it both ways, which is confusing. I just cant figure out whether this all reflects avoidance or gaining perspective. And it certainly is expensive.
Hope we can both figure it out
Yours in confusion, Lucie
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