Posted by lemonaide on September 4, 2008, at 12:32:41
This is just something I have been thinking about and I brought it up in therapy the other day. I told my T about how irresponsible I am being, I stay up late because I can, I read all day and totally neglect the house chores. I used to have an organized house Martha Stewart
would be proud of. lol Well now it is more like a Rosanne Barr type house. The thing is that I do feel guilty but in a way I don't care.
My T's take on this is that I never in my life as a child or teen able to be irresponsible. So he thinks I am going through a phase and he thinks it is good as long as my kids aren't starving. Well I said my daughter has taken over the cooking. lolHe sees it as a pendulum, in my earlier life, I had to be super responsible even
as a child, something beyond normal for most kids.
Now the pendulum is swinging towards being irresponsible and carefree because I can somewhat. Kinda like teen who can be irresponsible somewhat because they live with their parents. He thinks sometimes we need to swing the pendulum in both directions to come to an equilibrium.
I forget exactly what he said at the end, but he made a joke about not wanting to cause any rebellion in me because he has had enough of that with being a father of 6 kids. I said Halloween is coming up and I know where he parks his car and I have a huge stash of TP and soap!
So now I am teen, and everyone can bite me! lol
But serious though, does this make any sense to anyone. Am I going through a phase?
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