Posted by llurpsienoodle on August 25, 2008, at 18:14:22
In reply to therapy lately, posted by sunnydays on August 25, 2008, at 17:52:39
Hi Sunny,
funny... your T must be hanging out with my T!My T said to me at the end of last session "you know, llurpsie, it's okay to be mad at me"
Frequently, he has referred to my behavior as "acting out". For example, when I am overly vindictive, or when I cut myself. These types of things. I guess it's just a way of saying that I make my inner conflicts more visible, and perhaps that I influence those around me in a negative manner.
He also says "well, cut it out!" a lot. Like when I complain that I eat too much. "Well, cut it out!" I protest mightily, and then we both end up laughing. Similar response when I told him that I cut myself. Well, his first response is "why do you do that" and then I tell him blah blah blah, and then we discuss it to death, and then he says, "well, cut it out!". I confront him about this statement by saying that it is such a typical male response. He just nods and smiles.
hmmm
sounds like you're moving along, and No, I don't think it's wrong to want to be special. That kind of unconditional positive regard remains even when we tell our T's that we don't WANT to do something, in a rebellious teenage nagging voice (I'm speaking from my own experience, btw, not referring to your own style of communicating adolescence). Our T's won't give us a CLUE how we're *supposed* to act, because whatever we do is "grist for the mill" My T has a lot of canned phrases. Which I tease him about mercilessly.
Sorry, I got carried away.
I'm impressed by you
-Ll
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