Posted by seldomseen on August 24, 2008, at 9:34:56
In reply to Still in shock over termination., posted by nebulae on August 22, 2008, at 23:46:40
I'm so sorry all this is happening. Based on your reaction to his wife picking him up, you were in a lot of pain. I understand that and empathize with it. I know what transference is like and it does hurt and is wholly frustrating. It's hard to negotiate.
I do wonder though, have you considered that he might be feeling as though you betrayed him as well?
Therapists aren't supposed to be human, but they are. As Twinleaf indicated, he is most likely having a strong emotional response to your message. I think you need to acknowledge that emotional response and his hurt. He indicated that he felt as though you had blocked empathy. Do you think this is a correct assesment?
Based on what his reaction thus far he is not interpreting your actions as a therapeutic opportunity, but as grounds for termination. I think it would be wise to consider his interpretation. Not everything is in the bounds of therapy and a heartfelt apology and laying out a plan to ensure that it doesn't happen again should go a long way.
Keep us posted.
Thinking about you.
Seldom
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