Posted by Suedehead on August 19, 2008, at 12:35:29
So, my T's vacation is finally over. I saw him yesterday. It was...well, it was a lot of things, I guess. I was relieved to find that we still have a great rapport; I had worried that something would be missing after two weeks apart (kind of silly, I know) but our relationship doesn't seem to have suffered. That said, I was pretty hostile toward him at times. We talked about my being angry at him for leaving, and for the way he responded to my admission that I would miss him at our last session before he went away. It was hard, but good, too.
I could say a lot more about the session, but I'm actually posting for a different reason right now. My mom has been sick for a few days. She's at the hospital right now, in surgery. Not a very risky procedure or anything, but I'm pretty worried. There is a (small) possibility that she has a malignant tumor. It's being biopsied today so we won't know for a couple of days. I kind of want to call my T because I'm scared, but I don't even know what I would say. I just want to be comforted. I have no idea if this is appropriate. He said that I could call if I had an urgent problem (he left it up to me to define "urgent"). He also said that I could call if I just wanted to leave a message to tell him something that I hadn't been able to express in person. So, I know that he is at least sort of okay with phone calls. I guess I'm just wondering what everyone thinks. Would you call your Ts under similar circumstances? Do you think it's reasonable that I'd be upset about my mom and needing to talk to someone, even though in all likelihood she'll be fine? Thanks for any input. I know this is kind of a ridiculous post. I just have so much anxiety about balancing my emotional needs with other people's rights to privacy/space/etc.
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