Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2008, at 15:35:29
In reply to Re: You're probably gonna shake your head at this » Lemonaide, posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:17:40
Oh my goodness!! Raisinb, I think that would take me even longer to process!
I had three outside therapy contacts that I remember. In one we were both going to be at the same event, and I was participating. He said he'd make sure to stop and say hi. It ruined the entire event for me. Both while I was waiting, and while he and his date met my family, and after. That's when I drew up my rule that he could only talk to me inside the therapy room.
Another time we were at the same book store. I threw down my armful of (psych) books and ran like a startled hare. He never saw me. I recognized his voice asking the clerk a question.
After his marriage we lived within a few blocks of each other and used the same stores. I saw him in the drugstore. He didn't see me. Obviously my therapist-sense is more developed than his client-sense. I made sure he didn't see me, and knowing roughly what kind of vehicle he drove, I found it in the lot and wrote down the license plate. That way I could make absolutely certain that I never walked in the grocery store while he was there. And fortunately he never came in while I was there.
Oh wait. Same thing happened at the post office. I kept my head down and he never saw me.
I told him each time. But not until he turned into my therapist as the door was closed. He knows how I feel and walks twenty or so paces ahead of me in the hall to his office, never saying anything. And if we chance onto the same elevator, I make a terrified face, he makes an apologetic face, and we stare at the door while trying to look natural. Sigh. I once hid behind a column to avoid going in the elevator with him.
I don't know how you do it, Lemonaide. It would drive me nuts.
poster:Dinah
thread:841448
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080709/msgs/841469.html