Posted by backseatdriver on July 22, 2008, at 12:19:03
Hi Babblers,
I need your wisdom! For the second time in six months, I have offered my T a little praise -- something he'd written had moved me. And he responded in a way that made me feel small and humiliated. Here's the transcript:
BSD: "Your work really moved me."
T [grandly, patronizingly]: "Oh, well, that's what everyone wants. Everyone wants a personal relationship."
BDS [confused]: "You mean, everyone wants a personal relationship with their T?"
T [starts to see his mistake]: "Yes."
BSD [humiliated, backtracking]: "All I meant was, your work moved me. It had that effect."
T: "What you are saying goes right to my feelings of inadequacy."
BSD: "I'm sorry."
Do I fire this guy? I feel like such a heel, and for what? I dared to praise him! God forbid!
BSD
poster:backseatdriver
thread:841421
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080709/msgs/841421.html