Posted by Lucie Lu on July 9, 2008, at 20:22:35
In reply to Searching for a new T -for a DIFFICULT client, posted by Looney Tunes on July 8, 2008, at 20:02:46
LT I still cannot get over a T who would have the nerve to tell a client, over and over, that he/she was "a difficult client." If he finds you difficult, isn't it just as likely that his professional abilities are, shall we say, limited? Anyway, clearly, you were not a good match. Dump him.
FF made some really good suggestions. Since you do seem motivated, you could take it upon yourself to learn about different types of therapy used to treat BPD. Many people have found DBT very helpful. (Note that I am not even agreeing about this diagnosis, it's just a place to start.) Whatever the diagnosis, from what you say you do have a trauma background. There are Ts who specialize in trauma and have a lot of experience in that area. You might look into that maybe try calling your state branch of the APA (American Psychological Assoc) and ask if there are trauma Ts in your area. But it shouldn't be necessary there are plenty of excellent Ts who should be able to deal quite well with trauma clients without specializing as such.
Another thing you might try is to schedule a meeting or two with a T (again maybe get a name from the APA?) with the goal of reviewing your history, issues and what you're working on, and together trying to identify what type(s) of therapy might work best for you? If the visit is framed as a "consult" then you both might feel more comfortable and able to be objective rather than both wondering whether you two could necessarily work together. Insurance coverage also might be an issue, in which case that would probably affect the types of therapy you could most comfortably afford and would have to be one of your considerations.
Anyway, good luck LT and keep us posted!
Lucie
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