Posted by Dinah on July 7, 2008, at 12:23:00
In reply to How to survive termination?, posted by myrtledog on July 7, 2008, at 6:13:02
I wish I knew. My therapist recently considered leaving town for personal reasons. I saw no way to survive that.
But sadly I guess the answer is that you just do. Like when you're carrying a heavy weight, and you see the door right down the hall but you think you can't carry it one more step? Then you do.
I think you just put one foot in front of the other and survive, until the day comes when it doesn't hurt as much. And that day will come. I never like the fact that even the worst pain and grief subside. It doesn't seem right, and I want to hold onto it because it's all I have left. But one day you'll laugh at a Fawlty Towers episode, or be happy to hear from an old friend. And you'll know that like it or not, you did survive.
If you think that therapy would be helpful, either for getting over this therapy loss or for the original presenting problem, then it might be a good idea to start transitioning now. My therapist doesn't have any plans to leave right now, but he's going to give me a list of foster therapists that I can go to if I need to if he terminates me, and when I'll be too angry to listen to names at that point. If you aren't too angry, she will probably know you well enough to give you a decent referral and explain (with your permission) enough about you that they can be helpful faster.
And if the day ever comes for me, I guarantee you that I will entirely forget everything I just wrote.
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