Posted by raisinb on June 30, 2008, at 13:38:54
In reply to I'm crying my eyes out ~ my therapist, posted by Looney Tunes on June 26, 2008, at 21:48:02
Actually, my therapist just set a very similar boundary with me. Her point of view was that sessions had become nothing but me telling her what was wrong with her, rather than focusing on me and my feelings, which was not productive (according to her).
The distinction is really fuzzy, of course. I still express anger and hurt all the time, but more in terms of how I feel. Like, "when you're silent, it makes me feel abandoned and alone."
It sounds like your therapist has done some questionable things, and it also sounds like you're attached to him. I think only you can make the decision.
I have to say that I'm glad my therapist set that boundary. It jumpstarted my therapy into another level. But the point is, she did it because she's on the side of what's good for the therapy, not just because she didn't want to be attacked.
Of course, I was furious when she did it, and it could easily have backfired.
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