Posted by muffled on June 27, 2008, at 11:01:50
In reply to Re: answers to questions rsk muffled. ddnos, posted by star008 on June 27, 2008, at 2:39:21
Star, it does get better.
Its SO confusing at first.
But then once you start to understanding stuff, and being able to know what the 'others' are thinking and stuff, then its SO much easier.
I know being stuck in depression makes everything so hard.
But I wonder if being more aware of what your 'others' are feeling, needing etc might help too with depression.
It was just SO HUGE to me to be able to know more what was going on internally.
So much started to make more sense. Where all was confusion, now I could start to make some sense of things.
The 'others' are not all good, or all bad, they just are who they are. They want to to be heard.
Its hard to get better, for lotsa reasons, but sometimes other parts fear being left behind, or they fear change. Sometimes protection will try and stop things etc. It IS complex, but like I say, it gets better some. And in fact there are GOOD aspects to having 'others'.
Thats one of the hallmarks of DD is CONFLICT btwn parts. But that can be worked on too. It is MUCH better for me than it was.
Journalling can be good way to start to figger wassup internally. Just go with the flow, and then when you re-read, maybe things will over time start to fall into place some. Like doing a puzzle. Try and start to sort out who is who. You can revise and edit as you get more clarity.
Oftimes you can find a part that might be quite helpful given a chance.
And oftimes parts get 'stuck' in the past, so its good to let them know they are safe now.
As you get to know others better, you can learn to recognize triggers and when you switching. You can work on negotiating with your 'others' in a kind way.
It sounds like alot of work, but it is rewarding really, to be able to help the 'others'.
Hope you doing OK.
Do you read net articles much? Mebbe I need to re-find some that are good.
I am not babbling these days, I not feel so safe here.
You can bmail/email/and I on that other site I said bout now and again.
Best cares sent your way,
M
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