Posted by seldomseen on June 20, 2008, at 9:04:25
In reply to ya I know, posted by Happyflower on June 19, 2008, at 13:33:56
First let me say that there are just some bad people in the world. People that have no empathy for others. They are definately among us, but fortunately I think they are rare.
The rest of us I think are pretty much good, trustworthy people.
However, I can promise you this HF, if you are around even these people enough - even really really good people - you will get hurt.
Good people can be selfish, thoughtless, arrogant annd just basically mindless sometimes. I think it's just the human condition.
I also think the key in trusting others and seeing the good in them lies in the ability to trust ourselves. We've got to have enough confidence in ourselves to be able to absorb these hurts without being devastated by them.
With this confidence, comes the ability to say "you hurt me, but it's okay I'm alright".
I think both you and I carry from our childhood a devastating hurt that we simply at the time could not absorb. It was overwhelming and completely swamped our ability to cope with it.
Personally, I spent years afraid of going back to that hurt and overwhelmed feeling - so I stayed away from everyone (emotionally at least).
As I progress more into adulthood (at least emotional adulthood) the more confidence I have to absorb whatever people can throw at me. I'm not there yet, but I'm on my way.
You've survived a lot, HF and you are a strong competent woman. You've got what it takes I think to weather this current storm and still be open to life and love.
Take care,
Seldom
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