Posted by backseatdriver on June 5, 2008, at 15:09:42
In reply to Re: I don't have to be semipsychic for this one » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on June 5, 2008, at 10:39:55
Dinah, I'm all choked up inside reading what you've written here, about not having a place for part of you, except sometimes with your T, and how he doesn't want some of the things you want to give him, like your caring and concern.
I am going through this right now myself. I used to have a different sort of T, a woman who was very empathic and who really wanted me to take ALL of me into the session. Inside me there is a lonely little girl who only wants to love people and have that love be accepted. It is so humiliating to show that wish, to offer that love, and have it be refused or ignored. My new T is not interested in that. He is hostile, provocative, insulting (when he is not being outright seductive, I posted earlier about this).
The only thing that keeps me in this relationship is the idea that it might be some clever ruse on his part -- that his position towards me might, in the end, be healing.
I don't want to hijack this thread but I'm dying to ask: Does anyone know how (or even if) this stance is therapeutic?
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