Posted by Dinah on May 20, 2008, at 20:12:30
In reply to Re: Therapist I guess Kind of Fired me As I don't know » kezia, posted by Phillipa on May 20, 2008, at 19:15:16
You never were that happy with her. :(
I always had to remind my therapist of my homework. He has many fine and useful qualities, but a great memory wasn't one of them. If it comes up again, if you mention casually that you did the homework she assigned, she should pick up on the cue and follow up.
If she was a CBT therapist she was probably working more on current functioning than in what led up to your fears. And I'm sort of in favor of both approaches. My therapist did/does both. It wouldn't do me any good to understand why I do the things I do if I also didn't work on changing them. And with anxiety, sometimes you have to work on lowering anxiety *first*. Or at least I did. Then when I did that, the door was opened onto all that my anxiety was covering and we could address that more directly.
A lot of my insight came on my own though. I'm sure it was guided, but he's not one to do brilliant interpretations or pretend to know why I do something. Maybe you could bounce some ideas around in your head, and see what you come up with?
When you say you're afraid of being alone, in what context do you mean? You bicycle alone, so is it that you're afraid to drive, or afraid to go places far from home? Are you afraid to be at home by yourself? Or do you mean it in a more global way? Some people are afraid of going places by themselves because they've had panic attacks and fear the physical symptoms of the attacks.
What sort of homework did she give and not follow up on? I know it's frustrating. I know because I used to be frustrated. But in the end my getting better did mean more to me than it did to him, and I had to take the initiative at times.
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