Posted by DAisym on May 20, 2008, at 18:19:08
In reply to threpaist with medical emergency, posted by peratree on May 20, 2008, at 15:30:19
I'm sure it was shocking to get this kind of news as well as to have the support you count on disappear with it. It is OK to be upset - in fact, it is the appropriate response.
And I think it was a very warm and human thing for you to offer your caring and wishes of a speedy recovery to her. It might have selfish undertones (thus is the nature of therapy), but it was genuine and from your heart. Wouldn't you want that from people you work with? The therapy relationship is very different than most relationships but given how intimate it is, why wouldn't you have caring feelings for her? There may be transference going on, but it doesn't make it any less real. If you think about anyone else you've know for 10 years and talked to in a personal way, wouldn't you worry about them if they fell ill?
I hope you get through to one of the folks covering for her. It is important to have support as you hold yourself together during this time. And it is OK to miss her, worry about her, be mad that your sessions aren't happening and even like the substitute therapist. In the meantime, lean on friends and family and try to do something special for yourself during your usual therapy time. Self-nurturing skills are important. Use what she taught you!
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